"So why are you single?" a guy asked me the other night. What was I to say? That I am focused on other things, which would have sounded too Gloria Steinemish (pre-marriage)? That my last boyfriend was certain that he loved me and equally certain that he wasn't going to be with me, which would have made me sound like a victim? I don't think so. So, I did what any woman who is tired of those silly questions would do; I deflected. "Well, aren't we all single until we get married?" Hmm... It worked.

Suzanne, too, has lots of opportunities to dodge questions and comments volleyed at her by every member of her family, some friends, and even people that she didn't know well at all. I don't know any one person who used as many tactics as Suzanne did to meet guys or get away from the fact that she wasn't meeting the right ones. With that said, most everything she dealt with, at least one of my friends or I have experienced: Internet dating, moving to be near a man, bad dates, speed dating, overbearing parents, bad sex, and certainly the singles table at wedding receptions. As a matter of fact, a friend and I had a recent twenty-minute conversation trying to sort through our male repertoire to find her a wedding date so she would not be stuck at the singles table. Unfortunately, our choices were all busy. Thanks a lot fella. Just where are the surrogate boyfriends when you need one?

While there was nothing spectacular about Curse of the Singles Table, it was entertaining as it served as a reminder of all the ridiculous things most of us have done in the search for love. It also drives home the point that oft' times what is really needed is for us to just focus on ourselves, our growth, our goals and let the guy happen when it happens. But, hey! We already knew that. Right?

Suggested by Shereen Williams - Brooklyn, New York